I’ve run into a new networking slant twice in the last week.
At Smiling and Dialing, “Networking Fatigue” was mentioned. This involves an employed person who is besieged with requests for coffee by those unemployed amongst us. The Fatiguer spends coffee asking “Know of any jobs?” When the answer from the employed person is”No”, the Fatiguer gets cranky. Please, folks, remember to focus on others — give more than you get. (Thanks, SagePresence! Thanks, SAMSnet!). If you are truly giving to the person you meet with, Networking Fatigue will not occur; you will both come away from coffee glad for what you have shared. (And Shareology can tip her hat to that!)
To reinforce how important the above principle is, my coffee date on Saturday, mentioned she had been having some tough coffee meetings herself. “They just suck the life out of me….” She asked for a second meeting with me because I gave during meeting one, and she wanted me to help a friend of hers going through a tough time. Sure, I said, I’ll connect with him on LinkedIn and meet him for coffee. (Not coincidentally, at the end of our second coffee, she offered to put me in touch with a P.R. person in her company.)
Lesson to absorb? Networking needs you to give more than you get. Let’s play the game in a way that ensures we will treasure this contact and begin relationships that offer true exchanges into the future. Don’t be a Fatiguer: Be a giver!